It is good saying: a habit is not a need. Thinking about why do we have these things going in one or another way helps us to modify our patterns; it is good to analyze our behavior. Most important to be honest with ourselves.
What Is It A Habit?
Habit is a pattern of something doing again and again, not thinking and feeling how and why it happens. For example, people like to shorten their nails cutting it with their tooth. Not so lovely view for somebody, who sees this situation. Habits to be late, lie for themselves, scratch nose or spend time on the couch is just a few from all variety our behavior. Look around at first. It is easier to see bad habits of other people compared with yourself.
Paying Attention To Yur Thoughts
These behavior patterns keep us in the cycle. If we do not pay attention, why we are doing it in this way, what kind of consequences are of it, we will be stuck in the same place. To change habits is not as easy as it seems. You know about New Year’s resolutions. It does not matter what it is, for most of us, these promises disappear like the mist from the sun. It is so easy to go back to old, known patterns. It does not mean that we do not want to change old lifestyle or remove something that does not work for us from our lives.
It means that we need always guard our thoughts, behavior, and actions.
The Way To Rid Of Bad Habits
The same method as for goals works for habits too. You can pick a sheet of paper and write down which habits bother you. Write data, when you would like to start and finish. It is known that to change habits takes twenty-one day. Other authors give 40 days. Of course, at first, you need to decide which practices are bad for you. Take everything seriously for yourself. It is everything about you. Changing patterns is not easy, why you do not see leaders everywhere.
It is an excellent technique to reward yourself after reaching the smallest advantage. If you go back to old behavior relax, tell yourself that it is not the end of the world and start again. Be gentle with yourself, but firm.
Make Vision Board
Everybody has dreams, small or big. It does not matter what kind of ideas they are. It is yours. Routine in life can hide your visions. Tasks and worries can make your dreams to float away from you. To be alert and keep yourself in the right direction, is a good idea to have a vision board. For example, you want to visit a particular show or place. There so much information about every object such as pictures or descriptions from newspapers or magazines. Pin these cute pieces of your desired object to the board and check it as much as possible. In your subconscious mind will be images of your destination. If you always walk slouching or you are shy to dance openly, pick pictures with an expression of these actions, which you would like to turn to the new habits.
All Set For Change
Now you know how to prepare yourself for changing habits for a prosperous future. You identified them, found time and patience to move to new patterns, who are best for you. You used tools as vision board to strengthen influence to keep your will and imagination working for you. Now it is time to register your progress. Are you happy with the changes? If not, check again what you expect from yourself. What would you like to reach and how to replace your character’s details?
Of course, it is not easy to change stubborn habits. If everything went so smoothly, we would have plenty of happy people around. Why? Everybody wants to see changes in all areas of their lives. Unfortunately, just a few of us get up from the couch and take action.
What and who made us without strong characters and stubborn will? There are plenty of reasons and explanations, but from my point of view, I see that most people in civilized countries lost the sense of reality.
They do not know what it means to be hungry, be afraid of bombs or arrests. Every nation had own share of sorrow and loss. However, some of them forgot it because it happened many years ago.
Most of us who do not need to worry about basic needs are content with it what do we have. We do not think that we could live a lot better lives if we would change habits.
What kind of habits would you ask? Discipline, responsibility, and strong wish to reach the highest ground disappear from many heads.
Get Help From Friends
It is a good thing to tell your good friends or people who you trust about your intentions. They can help to keep you on the track. If you do not have them, it is okay. You have the best support in the world: yourself. Give a big smile for yourself, tell yourself I love you and move on. For everybody the time changing habits and speed are different. Most important what you know what you want to change and you will. Believe in yourself and do not let anybody to throw you off the chosen path. It is your life for Pete’s sake, isn’t?
Update. Robin Sharma, famous coach and writer points out that we need 66 days to form a new habit or lose an old one. He tells that scientists from Harvard found out that this term works. I tried by myself one to drop one habit which I got from the first class. At the same time, I decided to skip Facebook for 66 days and spent my time on better things such as time with friends or reading books. What can I tell? It worked for me. I did not have any problems with both habits. It seems that mind can serve you in powerful ways.